In this very special episode of Savage Love,
I answer letters from readers who made the largest donations to the
campaigns to preserve marriage equality in California
(www
.noonprop8.com) and protect same-sex couples in Florida
(www.sayno2.com).
I’m a 31-year-old woman, and my boyfriend
and I are starting to experiment with “pegging.” He’s very much into
submission and humiliation, and I find I’m pretty damn good at the
fem-dom thing. I understand that every couple needs to figure out their
own boundaries, but I was wondering if you could give me your
perspective on a couple of things.
1. My boyfriend can be bossy, but I find his
assertiveness particularly irritating when he tells me how to dominate
him. Shouldn’t this be my job to figure out what I want to do to him
and just do it? I would never actually hurt him, but I think he’s too
bossy for a sub.
2. One of our “games” is when I get him