I’m a 27-year-old divorced woman. I married the first man I ever had sex with, and we had a very vanilla sex life. He refused to try any play with dominant/submissive roles. My fantasies have always involved my submission.
My current boyfriend is very open and experienced. With him, I’ve tried being held down during sex, light bondage, dirty talk, gentle choking, etc. The sex is AMAZING. Here’s my problem: A few nights ago while we were watching TV and cuddling, he started to stroke my body. I asked if I could touch myself and if he would keep watching TV while I did it. I had the most intense orgasm of my life while he ignored me.
I said that I’d like to explore it more if he’s open to it (he is). My concern is that this submission might spill over into the relationship. I am NOT submissive...