STRUGGLE SESSION: Nipples Casting Shadows, Hosts Omitting Time Stamps, Boyfriends Attending Kink Parties and More!

... appreciate their true worth: the intense pleasure they provide me, and the power to attract the attention of admirers with clearly superior intelligence and discernment. I’ve still been somewhat hesitant to flaunt them under most circumstances but thanks to you and this new sobriquet, Nipples That Cast Shadows, I feel emboldened. I now walk confidently into any space, nipples proudly announcing my approach even before I myself arrive. On behalf of all my NTCS siblings, Dan, I offer deep gratitude for this validation. My NTCS and I are out of the closet. I wanna make a “What We Do In the Shadows” joke here but it’s too early and I can’t come up with one. BoyBondage — another NTCS bro — took to BlueSky to express his annoyance… As a fellow nipple shadow caster, wondering why @dansavage.bsky.social told us on The Lovecast which episode to watch the alleged disappointing pegging scene in but not the timestamp(s?) of said nipple shadows being cast so that I don’t have to actually watch Hunting Wives. 👀🧐🤭 Just keep your eyes peeled for George Ferrier, the 25-year-old actor who plays 17-year-old Brad on Hunting Wives. His NTCS are all over the first episode… One more item of nipple business: Chase Stobbe, a digital creator, recently came to the defense of his own nipples on Instagram. Interestingly, instead of being attacked by NTCS haters like you were, Philip, Chase was accused of artificially inflating his nipples for the likes. (Oh, and Chase recently posted some bondage pics to his feed, BoyBondage, that you might enjoy. They’re here.) Okay, here’s a letter that came in this week that’s not going to make it into the column… Does my girlfriend have a right to know that I attended sex/kink parties before we met? We’ve been dating for almost a year (both mid 30s, I’m a cis man, she’s a cis woman), and we recently had the “lay your kink cards on the table” discussion, which I know is later than you recommend, but I had hesitated out of sensitivity to her past trauma with an abusive previous relationship. During that conversation when I asked if I could tell her about the context in which I found my kinks (that is: kink classes and kink/sex parties), she told me that she didn’t want to know, because she’d wind up with mental images she couldn’t get out of her head. (I was tested a few months after my last party, so this isn’t a health safety issue.) Kink is a cherry-on-top nice-to-have for me that’s not core to my sexual identity. I was already satisfied with our mostly vanilla sex life but it sounds like our kinks align, which is good. The only big difference is she is strictly monogamous whereas I would enjoy group play or the energy of others nearby at sex parties. But even then, I would be content to go without that the rest of my life. I’m struggling with the dilemma of “keeping my fucking mouth shut” and feeling like I’m keeping something from her that could feel like a betrayal of trust if she found out vs. telling her in violation of the boundary she set. This is information I’d share on a first date on Feeld and some of my friends know. Keeping it to myself doesn’t feel right. What do you think? Knowing Isn’t Necessary Knowledge Have some advice for KINK? Drop it in the comments…