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Show and Tell

I’ve been married to my wife for nine years and we share a beautiful life together with our two young children. I came out to her as bi late last year after working through some major intimacy issues that are still ongoing. She accepts me and the issues are getting better. We are monogamous and … Read More »

Struggle Session and The Thursday Letter

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to a few comments from readers and listeners. And on Thursdays I share a letter and let my readers have the first crack at giving the advice. Q25 in this month’s Quickies was from a woman with a bisexual boyfriend. Not only wasn’t his bisexuality a … Read More »

Quickies

1. Which brand makes the best glass dildos? Asking for a friend! “Glass toys are not only gorgeous but also provide an amazing experience thanks to their weight, smooth surface, temperature-play options, and compatibility with any kind of lubricant,” said Jeneen Doumitt, the owner of SheBop, a Portland-based sex toy shop. “One of our favorite … Read More »

The Thursday Letter

One quick bit of feedback from a reader before we get to the Thursday letter… I was just listening to the After Action Report with the monogamous straight couple who got a couple’s massage and private room. I wanted to chime in as another monogamous, cis-het mid 40s woman and say that the Savage Lovecast … Read More »

Much Obliged

I’m a happily married pregnant woman. My wife and I have had a bit of a slowdown in the sex department, but nothing too worrying considering my “condition.” During this pregnancy I’ve had an increase in libido, but I haven’t shared that with her. We were having some conflict when I started to experience this … Read More »

The Thursday Letter: Can a Loving Partner Become a Brutal Dom?

I’m going to be taking a break from Struggle Session for a bit — but I will be engaging more in the comments, which feels more like a conversation. But I’m gonna keep posting bonus Savage Love letters Thursdays and letting my readers have the first crack at giving the advice. And here’s this week’s … Read More »

Homework

I’m a 50-year-old married bisexual American man living in Europe with my wife and kids. The “bi” part of me is still extremely new. Two years ago, I started seeing a sex-positive therapist to address my significant interest (and feelings of guilt about) kink and BDSM. Long story short, I admitted to myself that I … Read More »

Struggle Session: Drunken JO Sesh Ends in Disaster

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to a few comments from readers and listeners. I also share a letter and invite readers to have the first crack at giving the advice. I’m away this week — so Tuesday’s column was a repeat and there’s no Struggle Session today. But I’m not slacking: … Read More »

Poly Under Duress

Dear Readers: I’m off this week. To tide you over until I’m back, the tech-savvy, at-risk youth pulled some classic “PUD” questions from the archives. A PUD, of course, is someone who is “poly under duress.” Because while some start poly and some achieve poly, others have poly thrust upon ’em. These are their stories. … Read More »

Struggle Session: Folly Jamboree!

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers take a turn giving advice. I’m hosting the HUMP Film Festival in Seattle this weekend — come see me … Read More »