I’m a 22-year-old male from Canada and in a long-term relationship. The sex is fantastic, we’ve always been GGG, and our bedroom habits include talking dirty and light bondage, which she loves. However, my girlfriend sometimes complains that I “degrade” her in the bedroom and she thinks that this is representative of a larger lack … Read More »

I am a recently married 30-year-old straight guy. My wife is great, and in fact, I have a baby on the way. My relationship with my wife is a good one. We married for all the right reasons after a long “courtship.” My problem lies with my addiction, if you will, to receiving head from … Read More »

I was shocked to read your response to Not Giving Up last week. Dan, how could you? For years, you have been our go-to guy for uncommon sexual knowledge. So it made me want to cry when I read your column about Joan Sewell’s book I’d Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido. … Read More »

What to do about differing libidos? We’re a straight couple together 20 years. No weight gain, no radical changes in appearance. We are loving, and I am cognizant of her needs and feelings. Yesterday, I read an interview with Joan Sewell, author of I’d Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido, and handed … Read More »

I have a laptop at home. On occasion my best friend/roommate uses it to check her e-mail. On rare occasions her boyfriend uses it to check his e-mail—or so I thought. I have some naughty pics on my computer. They’re not on my desktop, so you can’t accidentally open one. I never felt a need … Read More »

Serious question: I have always had a thing for Anna Nicole Smith and frequently masturbated to her Playboy photos. I’ve always felt some guilt about masturbation to begin with, but since her death, I now feel a little creepy doing it. Do you think it’s okay to continue now that she has passed away? Missing … Read More »

Too many people believe that a vanilla type and a kinkster can never live happily ever after. Others are convinced that anonymous internet hookups always end in tears and positive HPV test results. Where do people get these false impressions? Reading columns like mine. Contented couples—twosomes who have successfully incorporated one partner’s kinks, internet hookups … Read More »

Hey, everybody: By now you’ve no doubt heard the news that America’s favorite crystal-meth-snorting, male-escort-blowing evangelical Christian pastor is cured! While 99.9 percent of wannabe ex-gays struggle to overcome their homosexuality for decades, Ted Haggard was pronounced “completely heterosexual” after just 21 days of counseling! Don’t you just love a happy ending? I’d love to … Read More »

I’ve been married to my husband for two years and have been with him for four. I’m a little dominant, but nothing too out there. My husband, on the other hand, is a diaper-loving, transvestite adult baby. I’ve done everything I can to make him realize that while I’m not into his kink, I’m not … Read More »

When I was a promiscuous young man (read: straight college boy), I had lots of casual sex. I particularly loved anal sex. And I very particularly loved rough, unlubricated anal sex with women who enjoyed same. I swore thatI would never be with a woman who didn’t love anal. But I am now dating a … Read More »