I’m taking a break from Struggle Session until after the new year — the HUMP Jury meets this week, I have early deadlines for the holidays next week, the week after that is chaos and carbs — but I’m gonna keep the GangBangs coming! My boyfriend and I have been together a long time and … Read More »

Cisgender bi-female late forties, living in the Bay Area. My boyfriend and I have been dating six months and are very much in love. His friends party quite a bit, lots of drinking and other party favors, and we all enjoy feeling good on the dance floor. The first time I met one of his … Read More »

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers to share their advice. Q22 in this month’s Quickies column was from a “vagina-having person” who was wondering whether … Read More »

1. Is Donald Trump a gay man? I can’t think of anything that screams “closeted gay” louder than building a golden ballroom. Donald Trump has been married to three different women (two of whom were immigrants), he’s been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault by dozens of women, and he was found liable — … Read More »

Like most of my readers, I’m taking the day off — Happy Thanksgiving to all who masticate — but we have readers (and Magnum Subs!) all over the world. So, for our international readers, I’m going to share a few questions that came in this week. A little something for our commenters outside the US … Read More »

I’m gay and go to a small liberal arts school. I have a crush on this one guy, but he brought up — unprompted — that he’s Aro/Ace. I really like him. We have great conversations in a lab we have together, and I think he’s super attractive. But every time I’ve tried to extend our … Read More »

Hey, everybody: I’ve got early deadlines all over the place — the holiday season is here — so we won’t be having a proper struggle this week. But I wanted to quickly share this suggestion from Master Wolfe for the caller who could only come during PIV if the guy had a girthier cock… Listening … Read More »

The person who introduced me to you — my wife — is the source of my woes. We have a child and a lovely home and financial security. But the issue is my feelings of sexual dissatisfaction. My wife suffers from health issues that make sex painful. I never pressure her, and her wellbeing is … Read More »

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers, listeners, haters, and fans. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers to share their advice. So, there’s a joke in this week’s Savage Love about bartenders in gay … Read More »

I’m a straight male who is not well endowed — I’m at the edge of the scale used to describe average penis size — and I watch porn both alone and with my wife. I suddenly find myself becoming more and more fascinated with larger penises. Specifically: What is it like to have one?  Like most straight … Read More »