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Says Thingamajig… Two weeks with no Struggle Session and it wasn’t mentioned on the show this week. Is that feature dead? Struggle Session lives! I’m hosting HUMP! in Berlin next week — as I mentioned on the show — and opted to take the long way to Berlin in order to get as far away … Read More »
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My always polite and very-high-functioning drunk husband was fucking around for the first fifteen years of our marriage. The other women were “unhappily married co-workers” who needed discretion. At the time, I thought our sex life was actually fairly normal. Things came to a head when I learned about a two-year affair he’d been having. … Read More »
I’m a gay 35-year-old guy in the San Francisco area. I’m heading on a weekend getaway with my boyfriend and two other gay couples. We’re all solid but purely platonic friends — at least so far — but turning this “couples’ getaway” into a group play extravaganza sounds so hot to me. I believe everyone is in … Read More »
1. How does one find the clitoris? I’m told the clitoris is not hard to find — go north, young man — but if one tries to find it and one fails, one should pull over (or pull out) and ask for directions. 2. If someone tells you to “do whatever you want,” should you? Someone who … Read More »
Okay, let’s struuuuuuugle… Thingamajig kicked off a lively discussion about the ethics and optics of using someone else’s toothbrush… a discussion that reminded me of a question that appeared in Savage Love a long time ago… so long ago, in fact, that you won’t find it in the archives. (The column got its start in … Read More »
I have a problem that I’m not sure can be solved. I’m a single gay man who hasn’t touched anybody for sixteen years. Yes, you read that right: I haven’t touched another person for sixteen years. Sit with that for a couple of moments. Most people don’t believe me. I did something stupid in 1998 and had sex in … Read More »
Okay, let’s struuuuuuggle… NRTGW is married to a woman who is done with PIV — it’s become too painful — and she wasn’t into letting him getting it elsewhere: “Recently, in therapy, I proposed opening things up in a variety of ways,” wrote NRTGW, “all of which she refused to do, saying it would cause … Read More »
I’ve been happily married to my wife for fifteen years. I’m a 54-year-old man, she’s a 55-year-old woman. While sex has never been our strongest suit, we’ve made the effort. But she now finds sex too painful and no longer wants to have intercourse. I’m on the larger side, which may or may not be … Read More »
Struggle Session is supposed to go up on Thursday… but I figure it’s still Thursday somewhere or, if not, it will be Thursday again soon, right? Okay, let’s struuuuuuuuggle… About MINO… So many of your responses are right on, and I have enjoyed reading your column for years because of your insight and knowledge on … Read More »
I’m a 28-year-old woman married to my husband, a 29-year-old man, for almost two years, and we still haven’t had sex. We met through mutual friends, dated for less than a year, and we knew pretty quickly that we wanted to get married. Things between us felt right. We genuinely liked each other, and everything … Read More »
I’m a little jet lagged at the moment… actually, I’m a lot jet lagged at the moment… so, this week’s Struggle Session is gonna be extra struggle-y, at least for me. My apologies in advance for typoes, incoherence, sentence fragments, etc. Dr. Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach, unpacked the many different forms tolyamory … Read More »
