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I’m a lesbian in a big city. My partner of five years is the most wonderful woman I’ve ever met, and we are deeply in love, and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. She has a son from an early-in-life marriage to a man. He is eighteen years old, a senior in … Read More »
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Matthew Hardy and Randy Klein — the duo who created our winning Feast of the Ass carol — also sent along this wonderful animated version of “The Ballad of Buddy the Ass.” I know Feast of the Ass is behind us… and absolutely no one wants to hear “All I Need for Christmas Is You” … Read More »
My wife and I are a lesbian married couple in Chicago. We are also proud moms to our wonderful, dynamic 17-year-old trans son. “Michael” is a great kid, and we have always enjoyed a close relationship. It has recently come to light that he is engaging in penetrative sex with men he meets on a … Read More »
Sigh. I wasn’t supposed to do a Struggle Session last week but I wound up doing one because the HUMP! shoot got cancelled and my day opened up. I was supposed to do a Struggle Session yesterday but wound up not doing one because my computer picked Wednesday night to start acting weird and I … Read More »
1. Would you be willing to share my list of proposed gender-free pronouns with your readers, listeners, and followers? I’ve enclosed a graph listing them that details how they should be used. They are very liberating. Sorry, but I’m unwilling to share your list of new pronouns with my readers, listeners, and followers, as there … Read More »
There wasn’t supposed to be a Struggle Session today because I was supposed be at a secret location filming the intro for the HUMP! 2025 International Tour. (Tickets on sale now!) But the filmmaker got COVID, which freed up my Thursday, and here we are. So, let’s struggle! Dry January? At this political moment? Xavier … Read More »
I’m a male in my late 60’s with what I think is an unusual problem. My wife of almost 40 years and I have a good sex life and it’s gotten better since the kids moved out. Every two or three days, I give my wife a neck and deep gluteal massage and then she … Read More »
My husband and I have been together fifteen years and been through pretty much all of the ups and downs sexually that a monogamous relationship offers. Two years ago, my husband was in an accident and broke his back. The accident resulted in some mild-to-moderate nerve damage to his legs and a newfound case of … Read More »
My boobs began to get bigger — apropos of nothing — in my early thirties. A lot bigger. No weight gain, they just started growing and didn’t stop. I hated it. I’m very active, and they were heavy and miserable and got in the way. So, I had a breast reduction and had never been happier. It was freedom… … Read More »
There was no Struggle Session this week because I was locked in a room watching porn for two straight days. The HUMP! 2025 Jury met early Wednesday morning and remained sequestered until late Thursday afternoon. I can’t release details about the films that made it into HUMP! this year — we have to notify the … Read More »
I’m a 45-year-old cis woman. I’ve been married to a cis man for almost twenty years. About a year and a half ago, I made out with a woman at a party, and everything clicked. I realized something was missing in my life, and I started exploring my attraction to women with my husband’s blessing. … Read More »
