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My boobs began to get bigger — apropos of nothing — in my early thirties. A lot bigger. No weight gain, they just started growing and didn’t stop. I hated it. I’m very active, and they were heavy and miserable and got in the way. So, I had a breast reduction and had never been happier. It was freedom… … Read More »
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There was no Struggle Session this week because I was locked in a room watching porn for two straight days. The HUMP! 2025 Jury met early Wednesday morning and remained sequestered until late Thursday afternoon. I can’t release details about the films that made it into HUMP! this year — we have to notify the … Read More »
I’m a 45-year-old cis woman. I’ve been married to a cis man for almost twenty years. About a year and a half ago, I made out with a woman at a party, and everything clicked. I realized something was missing in my life, and I started exploring my attraction to women with my husband’s blessing. … Read More »
Let’s get right to it… So, I got a call this week from a straight guy who couldn’t understand why his long-distance girlfriend was so sore after PIV… which they’d been having roughly five times in a single night after getting back together. I encouraged the caller to use more lube, to define sex more … Read More »
What’s the sexiest holiday food to eat off someone’s body? While food can be sensuous, you don’t eat food off someone’s body unless you’re fucking or about to fuck… and fucking on a full stomach is uncomfortable, which is why I’m always urging people to #FuckFirst” on Valentine’s Day (and their wedding days, birthdays, anniversaries), … Read More »
Dear Readers: I’m off for Thanksgiving. I was to tempted to re-run this column again — which has the single best Thanksgiving-related question that has ever appeared in an advice column — but I re-ran that column last year. So, instead I’m re-upping a column that appeared just before Thanksgiving in 2016. — Dan I’m a … Read More »
Welcome to Struggle Session, where I respond to comments from Lovecast listeners and Savage Love readers. (Forgive me for not getting this post up yesterday! I hit “save” instead of “publish” after it was ready and didn’t realize what I’d done — mistakes were made — until the middle of the night.) Vin sent a … Read More »
I might be falling in love with my husband’s identical twin brother. My husband and I have been in a traditional monogamous cishet straight marriage for twelve years. It wasn’t until the last few years that I started catching feelings for my brother-in-law, who is also married. I first started to notice my BIL in … Read More »
Welcome to Struggle Session, where I respond — sometimes at unreasonable length — to comments from my listeners and readers. First up, Bowman on BlueSky appreciated the opening of this week’s show… I just listened to your last episode and it was fucking great. I really needed it. Globally this is having repercussions (I am … Read More »
Dear Readers: Well, fuck. Reading a sex-advice column at a time like this — to say nothing of writing a sex-advice column at a time like this — might seem a little pointless. But I’ve lived long enough to know that seemingly pointless distractions, small comforts, and guilty pleasures have the power to sustain us … Read More »
I’m taking a break from Struggle Session this week. No reason — I mean, it’s not like there’s anything going on, right? But I will share one email… From K.B… Hi, Dan! Cis bi woman here, old enough to have sneaked a clandestine read of Jilly Cooper first time round. I need to pick you … Read More »
