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November 2, 2023

HUMP! 2024 is Coming! (Are You?!?)

The HUMP! 2024 deadline for submissions is coming right up — a little less than six weeks away — but you still have plenty of time to make your HUMP! movie! While some HUMP! films are elaborate productions that require months to make (and we love those!), every year people submit movies they were inspired … Read More »

November 2, 2023

STRUGGLE SESSION: Alcoholic Tendencies, Coerced Therapy, Interrogated Kinks, Long Lines at the Vatican and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments and criticisms from my readers and listeners. Struggle Session posts are exclusively for Magnum Subs — so, if you’re already a sub, THANK YOU and read on! If you’d like to become one of my subs, you can subscribe here! Magnum subs get the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, more … Read More »

October 31, 2023

Not Glue

I wanted to record this for your podcast but I’m literally too ashamed to say it out loud. I was in a relationship for more than twenty years with a guy who abused me sexually, emotionally, physically, psychologically, and financially. I grew up in a pretty unstable (read: abusive and neglectful) household and I’m proud … Read More »

October 26, 2023

STRUGGLE SESSION: The Coming of AI Matchmakers, Too Many Dumb Dealbreakers, The Late Great Bea Arthur, and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments and scriticisms from readers and listeners. Struggle Session posts are exclusively for Magnum Subs. So, if you’re already a sub, THANK YOU and read on! If you’d like to become one of my subs — which gets you the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, more calls, no ads), the Maxi … Read More »

October 24, 2023

A New Dom

I’m a 36-year-old reader, a recent subscriber to your column, and a gay man from Europe. I had a late coming out a few years ago, due to some financial and social constraints. I lived with my family well into my twenties, and then later with flatmates, and as a consequence I have never had … Read More »

October 19, 2023

STRUGGLE SESSION: Closeted Dads, Popping Pills, Queer Kinksters, and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments, emails, DMs, and tweets from readers and listeners. Struggle Session posts are exclusively for Magnum Subs. If you’re a sub, THANK YOU and read on! If you’d like to become a sub — which gets you access to the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, more calls, no ads), the Maxi … Read More »

October 17, 2023

Animal Urges

I’ve been carrying a lot of guilt and shame for a long time. (I’m going to drop a quick content warning here for sexual abuse: some of your readers might want to skip my question.) I am a victim of childhood sexual abuse. My abuser forced me to watch horrible zoophilia porn while they abused … Read More »

October 12, 2023

STRUGGLE SESSION: Shitty Rationalizations, Chemically-Peeled Peaches, Joe Newton Speaks and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments, emails, DMs, and tweets from readers and listeners. Struggle Session posts are exclusively for Magnum Subs. So, if you’re already one of my subs, THANK YOU and read on! If you’d like to become one of my subs — which gets you access to the Magnum Lovecast (more guests, … Read More »

October 10, 2023

Quickies

1. I’m a 57-year-old guy, married but separated, in reasonable shape. I usually masturbate at night as a “sleeping pill.” Over the past few years, it’s gotten more difficult to orgasm. I get hard, I vary my technique, but I just can’t come. Sometimes I’m up for hours jerking it before trying to fall asleep. … Read More »

October 5, 2023

STRUGGLE SESSION: Swift Justice, Defining CPOS Down, Very Special Guest Stars, and More!

On Thursdays I respond to comments, emails, DMs, and tweets from readers and listeners. Struggle Session posts are exclusively for Magnum Subs. So, if you’re already one of my Magnum Subs, THANK YOU and read on! If you’d like to become one of my subs — which gets you access to the Magnum Lovecast (more … Read More »

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