The person who introduced me to you — my wife — is the source of my woes. We have a child and a lovely home and financial security. But the issue is my feelings of sexual dissatisfaction. My wife suffers from health issues that make sex painful. I never pressure her, and her wellbeing is … Read More »

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers, listeners, haters, and fans. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers to share their advice. So, there’s a joke in this week’s Savage Love about bartenders in gay … Read More »

I’m a straight male who is not well endowed — I’m at the edge of the scale used to describe average penis size — and I watch porn both alone and with my wife. I suddenly find myself becoming more and more fascinated with larger penises. Specifically: What is it like to have one?  Like most straight … Read More »

Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers, listeners, haters, and fans. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers to share their advice. (NOTE: I scheduled this post to go live on Thursday before I left … Read More »

1. I’m a 34-year-old woman who has been with a man I really enjoy for three years. There are a few reasons I don’t think we’re going to last forever. Most importantly: I’m not planning to have kids. He knows that but he wants them. Do I cut it off or let it run its … Read More »

Is Donald Trump a closeted gay man? I can’t think of anything that screams “secretly gay” louder than building a golden ballroom. Donald Trump has been married to three different women (two of whom were immigrants), he’s been accused of sexual harassment and assault by dozens of women, and he was found liable — by a … Read More »

The fact that I’m in an LTR with a partner who knows I’m bi, is fine with me exploring with other guys, allows to me seeing professional dominants, and has experimented with me over the course of our relationship is probably all down to what I have learned reading your column and listening to your … Read More »

Hey, everybody: I’m not feeling well — can’t shake this cold I’ve had for more than two weeks — so this one is gonna be short… Says Anonymous via email… Comment for the 48-year-old female caller, dating man 12 years younger, who called in to Episode 990: Proceed with caution. I also got involved in … Read More »

I’m the parent of a 14-year-old boy who is on the autism spectrum. Recently, I discovered that he has been searching online for some niche sexual material. Because of his autism, he tends to hyper-fixate on things, and I’m concerned about what might happen if I ignore this. Could it affect his future sexual development … Read More »